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5 Words Worth Learning from Coaches

7/26/2017

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What if there were five words you could string together in almost any conversation – with loved ones and business associates alike – to increase relationality and productivity? Good news: those words exist, and coaches use them all the time! What are they? “Tell me more about that.”

Benefits
With these five simple words, you invite the speaker to take the conversation to a deeper level and fill out the story with additional details. It’s hard to put a price tag on the additional information you’ll gain. But there’s another key benefit. If you do it right (not to pry but only out of genuine interest), while gaining info you’ll simultaneously make the other person feel important, cared about, and listened to.

Examples
Conversations often stall out because no one knows what else to say. But it doesn’t have to be that way! Here are some ideas for how to apply this incredible, and incredibly simple, question.

1. Your spouse comes home from work and you ask him how his/her day was. The answer is a mere one word, “Fine.” But you want to know more! Try: “Tell me more about what you worked on today. I’m so interested to know!”

​2. Your boss mentions in a meeting that he’s got some ideas for a new project, which, even though the team is already overloaded, will need to begin soon. Rather than responding first with panic, start with inquiry: “I’d be interested to hear more details on that.”

3. You’re mingling at a cocktail party and are hesitant to enter into more small talk that will inevitably hit a dead end (“What do you do for work?” “I’m in the IT business.” “Oh. Cool.” [Silence]). Imagine what a better conversation you could have if you came back with the open-ended question: “Oh, cool. Tell me more about what you do in the IT business.”

Becoming Interesting Yourself
Whether you ask it in short form (“Tell me more”) or use a longer variation (“I’d like to hear more about that. What else can you tell me about ____?”), this invitation to keep talking can be a game changer in any number of conversational settings. And if you’ve read Dale Carnegie’s classic book, How to Win Friends and Influence People, you’re already aware of this paradox: people feel like you’re interesting when you let them do most of the talking. That being the case, if you make the effort to begin using these five words in conversation, you’re likely to skyrocket to becoming one of the most interesting conversationalists your friends and colleagues ever encounter.

“Tell me more about that.” So simple, but so significant. Try it today and see what happens. Be sure to submit your favorite variation in the Comments section so we can all give it a shot!


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Why I am a Coach: 4 Beliefs & 4 Loves

7/11/2017

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​I spend coaching session after coaching session helping others find their ‘why’ and drill down on what drives them. But I rarely take the opportunity to express to my clientele why I do what I do! Here are the Four Beliefs and Four Loves that compel me to be a Career & Life Coach.
 
I’m a coach because…
  1. I believe people are incredibly valuable and deserve to be listened to at a deep level – maybe even a deeper level than they’ve previously listened to themselves.
  2. I believe people often know the best answers to their quandary, question, or quest; they just need help articulating those answers and trusting their own experience and voice.
  3. I believe people have to act on what they know for it to make a difference in the world. Taking action by answering the question “What will I do differently because that is true?” builds a bridge between our thoughts and our lives.
  4. I believe people can often succeed with a small boost from someone who believes the best about them and will champion their efforts.
 
I’m a coach because…
  1. I love being invited into someone’s unformed plans. It’s an honor to sit with clients in their questions rather than merely be presented with the already-determined parts of their lives and strategies.
  2. I love being present for that lightbulb moment – that ‘aha!’ experience – when something clicks and a new piece falls into place in a client’s life and thinking.
  3. I love helping people discover, articulate and apply their strengths. Far too few clients recognize what is uniquely good in them – where their innate talents lie and why those talents matter for themselves and their neighbors.
  4. I love coaching conversations! I realized recently that if I was somehow independently wealthy and never had to work another day in my life, I would actually pay other people to let me coach them. That’s how much I enjoy being a life coach. And I want other people to find this level of satisfaction in their lives and careers, too.
 
That's me! What are the beliefs and loves that drive what you do?

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